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There are two opinions about happy marriage life. One opinion says that marriage life within 2 people with same interest and temperament will happy and the other opinion says the different interest and temperament will stimulate each other. But, the correct thing is: interest and temperament aren’t the important factors because they still can change by time. What is the important factor? That is the same base values that guide our behavior. The values are one thing that can’t be compromised without breaking our integrity. And values are the most permanent aspect in our character. A couple can’t solve their values conflicts with separate their differences.

These are tips to make happy marriage life:

• Precede your spouse.
  According to some authors, your marriage life will most happy when you can give more priority to your marriage relation than other relations. Include your relation with your children. If a couple gives more priority to their task to be a parent more than their marriage life, their adult emotional need often can’t be fulfilled. They have risk to load this burden to their children. It can make their children felt to fail when they can’t fulfill their parent emotional need.
• Communication within heart.
  If growth is together value, it is necessary for a couple to follow what in their spouse feeling, heart and life. Use your time as well. Quality is more important than quantity. Express your thinking, desire and dream to your spouse and hear his/her thinking, desire and dream with full attention and affection.
• Know when should push hardly.
  In a best marriage life, a couple will not let their spouse long-drawn-out in decline, but mutual push to realize their best vision. Not push your spouse to the best is a neglect form that can break your marriage life.
• Chase the dream.
  Marriage isn’t the only one mission in your life, so with take care of your children. You will never happy if hope that it will give your total happiness. In a happy marriage life, a couple also has something outside. What you do isn’t important as long as your desire in relation with something that needs your ability expression and adds the value and aim in your life.
• Don’t hang your feeling to your spouse.
  In a happy marriage life, both persons agree that they have their responsibility toward their welfare. They don’t rely on their spouse to make them happy or impute their spouse when they aren’t happy. They know that in one side they can’t arrange what their spouse say or do, but they can arrange their way to response and whether their response will add their mind peacefulness or even reduce it.
• Responsibility.
  Although we aren’t responsible to our spouse feeling, but we have to responsible toward our deed and it’s influence to our marriage life. A couple that follows this value will appreciate the commitment, say the truth, proves their words can be held and responsible on their behaviors. They also felt their spouse do the same. They are not only assume that lie to their spouse is an unacceptable thing, but also can’t accept the attitude that are not confrontational toward the falsehood.
• Seek the time for your soul.
  In a marriage life, it is important to renew the soul. Do your hobby, exercise, enjoy the nature, art, pray or just get free quiet time. A couple that can take care of their-self with this way will have more big possibility to give high respect to other value that can make their marriage become happy and give the strength to solve their conflicts.
• Be love hero.
  Most people agree that life with follow the values will useful to their marriage but the more difficult thing is to apply it. We need to loyal to those values although it against with our desire and even when we are tempted or depressed to leave it. To get happy marriage life, we need courage and sacrifice but we will get the good result.